Poly Patao Productions (P3)

There is so much to share with you all. Here are a bunch of wonderful releases and forthcoming writings you should have on your radar….Sexual liberation for all!!!

New adult comedy “Mommy is Coming“, by Cheryl Dunye and Sarah Schulman was released in Berlin at the Berlinale Film Festival this past February. I had to privilege of attending the premier and it was amazing. I was so happy to be a part of this project. We are hoping to have a viewing in NYC in April. Cross your fingers.

MOMMY IS COMING is raunchy queer sex filled romance set in the international creative melting pot Berlin. A take on screwball romantic comedies, director Cheryl Dunye (THE WATERMELON WOMAN, STRANGER INSIDE, THE OWLS) adds sexual imagery to her ingenious form of storytelling. Structured like an off beat fairy tale, we follow Claudia, Dylan and Helen as they bumble their way through hotels, queer Berlin nightlife, and their hearts only to realize that in matters of love it sometimes pays to listen to your Mommy.

Tristan Taormino‘s new book “The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role play and Erotic edge“  is out in bookstores. There are so many fantastic contributions to this book. I’m happy to finally have a copy of it. Check out my piece called “Age role play.”

This is more than just a guide to kink, it’s more than a sex manual. Editor Tristan Taormino has brought the players, thinkers and rock stars of the kink scene and together they have created a book that not only lets people know where to start, but why to start, and what they’ll get out of it. Vanillas, novices, old hands, old guard—everyone can learn from this collection.” —Dan Savage Award-winning author, filmmaker and sex educator Tristan Taormino presents this bold and sexy treasury that runs the gamut from expert tutorials on kinky erotic practices to thought-provoking essays that delve into complex questions about desire, power and pleasure. The Ultimate Guide to Kink features the expertise of renowned educators writing passionately on their favorite subjects, including Patrick Califia, Midori, Laura Antoniou, Barbara Carrellas, Lee Harrington, Jack Rinella, Lolita Wolf, Madison Young, Hardy Haberman, Felice Shays, Ignacio Rivera, Sarah Sloane, Mollena Williams, FifthAngel and Edge.

Coming soon…Be on the look out for:

The release of “Orgy Fuckfest” produced by Slanted Tendency. It should be on-line and ready to watch by the end of March. You’ll see the likes of Trick, Jiz Lee, Chocolate Chip and me in this very sexy, super hot POC -orgy-thon.

Queer Porn TV’s “Fuckstyles” is a compilation of some very hot shoots. Of course I got to work with the one and only Jiz Lee and our chemistry is to hot for words.

We gathered our favorite queer porn stars together to make a hard core porno mix tape just for you! We gave these babes complete freedom to be their nasty selves, and they gave us rough sex, double penetration, anal sex, pussy eating, blow jobs, strap ons, finger banging, squirting, POV, masturbation, doggy style, romance.. and loads and loads of real orgasms!! This is the kind of sex queer porn celebrities love to have – and you get to watch! This DVD has it all: cool queer babes, gushing wet orgasms, and great chemistry!

Take a look at the nasty happenings in suite 111 in the release of “Hotel” from Juicy Pink Box Productions.

Spy on our stars in Suite 111 at the JUICY PINK BOX HOTEL. Delores Haze and Rozen Debowe play rough in bed while on vacation in TOURIST. Ela Darling delights in a pre-wedding romp with Papí Coxxx in BACHELORETTE. Ela returns in NEWLYWEDS for a morning-after romp with her new bride, Annabelle Lee. Calico Lane cheats on her husband with Nikki Hearts in ADULTERY. Come enjoy a deliciously voyeuristic experience in HOTEL.

Coming out later on..

“In Search of” will be one of the stories you’ll read in “Perverts of Color.” I am happy to be one of the many contributing writers for this particular anthology .

The voices of US racial minorities in alternative sexual communities are important but often unheard. The Perverts of Color anthology is a collection of voices from people of color (POCs) who participate in alternative sexual and relationship practices which include but are not limited to: S&M, D/s, leather, kink, fetishism, polyamory, and swinging.

Trans Bodies Trans Selves: a resource guide for the transgender community.” I am so pleased to have been able to write a small piece in Trans bodies which ironically enough is called “The Trans Body.”

Trans Bodies, Trans Selves is a resource guide for the transgender population, covering health, legal issues, cultural and social questions, history, theory, and more. It is a place for transgender and gender-questioning people, their partners and families, students, professors, guidance counselors, and others to look for up-to-date information on transgender life. Each chapter will be written by a separate transgender or genderqueer author, but to provide consistency of layout, message and tone, authors will be given guidelines and will work closely with the editor. The book will be aimed at a general transgender and gender-questioning audience, and when using complicated language, will provide definitions and explanations. The tone will be friendly and fun, and will promote trans-positive, feminist and genderqueer advocacy. Included in each section will be anonymous quotes from everyday transgender people, who will be interviewed and also surveyed electronically, so that their voices are heard throughout. Short opinion pieces and testimonials (1-2 pages long) will also be included in each chapter. Finally, each chapter will contain references to resources such as books, movies, and organizations related to the chapter’s topic.

Be sure to check these all out, tell a friend and let me know what you think. Thank you all for your support!

Industry folks James Darling, Maxine Holloway and I get interviewed by Sophi St. James . Read her 1st guest blog post  Queer Ménage à Trois for  Hot Movies for her.

It’s finally here! The feature length adult comedy by Cheryl Dunye is debuting at Berlinale International Film Festival next week. I’m thrilled to have been apart of this film.

Click on image to see a clip.

DYLAN, a sexy young Berlin femme and her lover CLAUDIA, an American dyke hotel clerk, have that raunchy sex filled life every one dreams of. They fuck all over the city — whenever they want to, however they want to. But hot queer couples have problems.
Dylan wants more from Claudia without giving back her heart while Claudia wants romance and love. And to make problems worse, Dylan’s mother HELEN, in the midst of her own mid-life-sexless-marriage-crisis with her boring husband HANS, has nothing better to do than worry about her little girl who she imagines to be lost in the big city: single and lonely. When Dylan breaks up with Claudia everything starts to heat up and gets mixed even more when Helen decides on a surprise visit to check up on things…
Mommy is coming, and boy does she come!

MOMMY IS COMING is raunchy queer sex filled romance set in the international creative melting pot Berlin. A take on screwball romantic comedies, director Cheryl Dunye (THE WATERMELON WOMAN, STRANGER INSIDE, THE OWLS) adds sexual imagery to her ingenious form of storytelling. Structured like an off beat fairy tale, we follow Claudia, Dylan and Helen as they bumble their way through hotels, queer Berlin nightlife, and their hearts only to realize that in matters of love it sometimes pays to listen to your Mommy.

Photo by: Syd London

New York’s only queer storytelling event is back with a special guest curator, Sassafras Lowrey, editor of the Kicked Out anthology and nationally known storyteller.

This Leather themed storytelling evening is a benefit for Boston’s Write Here Write Now founded by Toni Amato

Announcing the amazing line-up of storytellers:
Sinclair Sexsmith
Emily Millay-Haddad
Kelli Dunham
Ignacio Rivera
Sara Vibes
Sassafras Lowrey

Sara Vibes a black, polyamorous, queer, kinky, dandy, macho femme princess born and raised in New York City. She is The 25th International Ms Leather 2011 and an active member in The Leather, BDSM, Poly, and LGBT communities in New York City and beyond. She has taught at Playhouse in Baltimore, Dark Odyssey, and International Mr. Leather and many other events and places during her title year. She will also be a contributor of the Perverts of Color Anthology and Salacious Magazine. Her mission is to make sex education accessible to everyone. She hopes to rip the veil off of the shame surrounding sex and sexuality through self love and exploration with people that care about each other.

Sinclair Sexsmith runs the award-winning personal online writing project Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top at sugarbutch.net. With work published in various anthologies and websites, including Take Me There: Trans and Genderqueer Erotica, she is the guest editor of Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, and her first full-length erotica anthology, Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica, will be published by Cleis Press in April 2012. Mr. Sexsmith writes, teaches, and performs focusing on the subjects of sex, gender, and relationships. More information on her at mrsexsmith.com.

KELLI DUNHAM is a ex-nun, genderqueerious stand-up nerd comic and author of four books of humorous non-fiction, including two children’s books being used by Sonlight conservative home schooling association in their science curriculum. She has appeared on Showtime, the Discovery Channel and was once asked to emcee a livestock auction. Her website is kellidunham.com. She is the co-founder, with Genne Murphy, of Queer Memoir. Her hilarious new family-secret revealing show, Normal at Nite: Good Times & Family Matters with Perfect Strangers (a collaboration with R Eric Thomas) is debuting February 18th at NYC’s Stonewall Inn.

Ignacio Rivera aka Papí Coxxx identifies as a Queer, Trans, gender-fluid, polyamorous, kinky, Black-Boricua. Ignacio, who prefers the gender-neutral pronoun “they,” is a lecturer, activist, wanna-be-filmmaker, sex educator, sex worker, and performance artist, sharing spoken word, one-person shows, and storytelling internationally. Their work has appeared in ColorLines, Ebony, Yellow Medicine Review and in their chapbooks, Las Alas, co-authored by Maceo Cabrera Estévez; Ingridients; and Thoughts, Rants and What Some Might Call Poetry. A proud mom of a 21 year-old daughter, Ignacio is the recipient of a Marsha A. Gómez Cultural Heritage Award from LLEGÓ: The National Latina/o Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual & Transgender Organization

They are also the founder of Poly Patao Productions (P3), which is dedicated to producing sex-positive workshops, performances, educational opportunities and events that are specially geared toward queer women, transgender, multi-gender, gender queer, gender-non-conforming and gender variant folx of color.

Ignacio has been facilitating workshops, doing lectures and creating events for kinky, kinky-curious Queer/Trans POC’s and their white queer and trans allies for over a decade. http://polypataoproductions.com/

Emily Millay Haddad is an independent filmmaker, writer, director, activist and media professional living and working in Brooklyn, New York. She had the words to call herself a “feminist” when she was five, a “white girl” when she was nine, a “lesbian” when she was 17, a “bisexual” shortly after that, and a “queer” when she was 19. At 20, she was “polyamorous;” at 21, she learned about “kiki” dykes in the butch/femme spectrum of 1950s dyke bars and finally had a word for her gender. By 24, she had the words for “kinky” and “switch.” And at 27, she learned the hard way that being “working class” was more than just her history or an economic label. She brings all these words and many more, as well as the life experiences they inadequately describe, to her labor and her yearning as an artist and a lover.

Emily Photo credit: Kjerstin Rossi

Sassafras Lowrey is an international award winning queer author, artist and activist and has been involved in leather community for nearly a decade. Sassafras’ prose have been included in numerous anthologies and ze tours to colleges, universities and community centers across the country facilitating workshops that support LGBTQ/leather people in telling their stories. Sassafras lives in Brooklyn, New York with hir Daddy. You can learn more about Sassafras at www.PoMoFreakshow.com

See you all March 3rd 8pm at

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The possession of my own body has taken a long treacherous journey.

The area down there…

The dark shameful place

Brown exterior

Silky pink grooves

Vertical exposures of what could have been testes

Now plumply protrude

To protect my innards

Hole.

This is what I name it.

It’s mine to name.

This is my Hole.

Ambiguous, gender neutral, raw and offensive to some.

Hole…

1.

an opening through something; gap; aperture

There is an opening between my legs that my mom called my  “Coqui”.

Coqui is a small tree frog. It is the most recognizable endemic species and a symbol of Puerto Rican pride. It is cute, small and innocent.

Inanimate

2.

a hollow place in a solid body or mass; a cavity

It was this hollow place where my ­­­abuser would like to “play.”

My body, not as solid as I needed it to be

Much weaker

Floppy

Mushy

She molded my “toto” to her liking

Invaded my cavity and turned me hollow

3.

the excavated habitation of an animal; burrow.

This is where the male animal like to lay my father scolded; without provocation

Hide the garden

Fear the animal at all costs

My father was right but he failed to notice the creature who lived with me in my room

My Vagina was a burrowing place for bad creatures

4.

a small, dingy, or shabby place

My cunt was tarnished

Taken and given before its time

Then given freely by me to all; for love

Then, my cunt was demonized for wanting another to call its own

Soiled history

Blasphemous path

5.

a place of solitary confinement; dungeon.

The thing I once called my pussy is nameless

No words that can describe it

Naming ceremony is in order

Born in a body told to lie down

Assimilated with weakness and power rolled into one

Societal contradictions

I challenge what this thing between my legs makes me

I feel different

Alone

6.

an embarrassing position or predicament

The predicament I find myself in these days is the explanation of my nether regions

The re- naming of my body

The re-claiming of my gender

The thing I once called my crotch, (to deflect from supposed identity or sexual behavior),

Questionable

Crotch?

“Crotch” lacked

Thus aiding in this predicament of mine

Sexless

Invisible of history

But Hole…

Hole, incorporates

Travels the dark corners and blistering deserts that have taken me here

An opening

Hollow place

Unintended burrows

Dingy place

Solitary

Predicaments

Hole

An offensive term to some

Conjuring images of penetrative acts

The receiver

Weakened by it

Only propels me to re-claim

Re-imagine

Masculine-ize the feminine and vise versa

I allowed myself the pleasure

Hole

A gender-neutral term

A place where big things can be inserted

A place where orgasmic juices eject

A place of unending pleasure

Cleansing

Were creation is introduced

A thing that can have accessories and or attachments

A thing that is mine!

…that can be shared

A place of pride

The possession of my own body has taken a long treacherous journey.

It has been owned by my parents, taken by strangers and family alike, saved, pleasured, angered, sickened and finally reclaimed by me.

Hole

This is what I have come to name it.

Have you ever seen the movie “Pootie Tang”? It’s a comedy about a Blaxploitation lady’s man character by that very name. He fights evil with a wicked snap of his belt and speaks lingo that the audience doesn’t understand, but the characters in the film do. Wanda Sykes is one of the characters in the film. She plays a woman named Biggie Shorty. Her character, among other things, hangs out and dances on a corner throughout most of the movie. At one point two men drive by looking for some action and approach her.

Click here to watch Wanda Sykes as Biggie Shorty in Pootie Tang

 Guy 1: “How much for the 2 of us?”

 Biggie Shorty uses her purse to slap Guy 1

Guy 2: “Hey baby what’s your problem?”

Biggie Shorty: “Just because a girl like to dress fancy and stand on a street corner next to some whores, you automatically think she’s hook’in?

 Guy 1: “Wouldn’t you?”

Biggie Shorty uses her purse to slap Guy 1 again.

 Biggie Shorty: “No I wouldn’t! I’m a lady you greasy bastard?”

I wouldn’t identify myself as a lady, but I understood the point she was trying to make. Why shouldn’t she be able to chill on the corner, dance and hang out next to the working ladies? It’s her hood. It’s her choice right? I guess that choice imbeds itself with how others interperate that choice. People make assumptions and act on those assumptions.

This got me thinking about how people see me, not because of where I hang out or whom I’m hanging out next to, but what I do. What do I do? I do sex. I have taken sex and owned it for myself. I create events around sex/ sexuality. I’m a sex educator. I’m a sex worker. I’m a sexual liberationist. Sex (uality) is art. It is political. It is powerful and this has become my identifier. Sex.

Sex makes people excited. Sex makes people uncomfortable. Those unnerving and eager feelings often bring up two kinds of reactions to my sex.

1. People think everything I do is sex. They think that everyone I know, I’ve fucked.
2. People think my sex is available to them. They think they can approach me in any manner they wish. They believe my sex is up for grabs.

I’ve had situation where I’ve invited folks to dinner and they’ve gotten nervous and thought they’d secretly been invited to a play party. They think every party, potluck, gathering I organize, is a sex party. They have anxiety that they’re gonna walk into a freak show sex-capade. Believe me people, I’m real clear about what’s gonna happen at my shindigs. If by chance, something does pop off, you will most defiantly have the opportunity to say yes, no or maybe. You’ll have the opportunity to negotiate or opt out. I like willing participants. I don’t spin a torrid web of sex to catch you in. I love negotiating.

The other half of folks think that they can touch me without asking, send me personal e-mails when I’ve never met them before. “Hey baby, what you doing tonight?” “I’d love to lick you all over.” The comments and the assumptions about what I do or what I’m willing to do with anyone soars beyond the imagination.

This way of thinking about my sex by others makes me sad. It makes me angry. It misses the whole point of the work I have dedicated myself to. If you took the time to talk to me or know me, you’d know that communication, negotiation and consent is so important to me. My sex isn’t just sex for sex’s sake. My exploration of it serves a greater purpose; for me and hopefully to those I’ve had the privilege of mentoring. If you knew me, you’d know that I’ve been working on these things for years, educate on it and do my best to practice it righteously. You’d also understand that those reactions to me help to supply false notions around sexual freedom. This is what happens to those who “do sex.” When people witness how others react to me, it aids in deterring others from seeking their own sexual truth. Do you see how fucked up that is? Your actions or reactions speak volumes.

I guess some people would assume that because I “do sex,” that I should expect this. Just as Biggie Shorty should expect to get solicited because she dances on a street corner that’s known as a stroll. I don’t agree; and in honor of Biggie Shorty’s right to stand on a corner and dance with the whores, I send all the “assumers” a virtual slap on the face with my man-bag and say, “ Just because I’m a sex worker and organize sex parties doesn’t mean that’s all I am! I’m a gentleman damit! Don’t make assumptions because then you make and ass out of you. That’s it. Just you.

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2009

Wouldn’t it be amazing if we lived in a world free of hate, bigotry and violence? The current state of affairs dictates that we are far from that Utopian dream.

On October 2009, Federal Hate Crimes Legislation was officially signed by President Barack Obama and passed to include sexual orientation, gender, gender identity and disability to the existing hate crimes bill. It took over a decade to pass this and now it’s a reality. So, what now?

Many people I have spoken to declare this a victory for the safety of LGBT individuals and communities. The Human Rights Campaign has deemed it “…an inevitable march towards equality.” Does this new legislation create safety? Does it begin the long process of creating a new moral code against the hate-based bias towards LGBT people, or is it an effort to calm the queer masses in the midst of “Don’t ask don’t tell,” the Employment Non-Discrimination Act and Defense of Marriage Act?

The Mathew Shepard and James Byrd Jr Hate Crimes Prevention Act insinuates that the government does in fact care about what happens to queers. The Act declares that NOW it’s a federal crime to assault an individual because of their gender identity, sexual orientation or gender, as well as other pre-existing categories. It does not interfere with the First Amendment of said perpetrators and concentrates on violent crimes. This new hate crimes prevention act is not about thought, but about the violent action fueled by that thought.

James Byrd Jr.

I ask you: Can we name this legislation for what it really is?  It’s not a prevention or protection act. How can it be when this bill passed as part of the Defense Authorization Bill to give the Justice Department the right to step in when local jurisdictions are unwilling (or unable) to investigate or persecute hate-based crimes fueled by the systems of hetero-centrism and the gender binary? It is a reactive bill.

If concern and acknowledgment of a community is in fact the basis to pass this bill, then we are in for a rude awakening. This legislation is yet another Band-Aid among many Band-Aids that creates a false sense of security and pushes a still marginalized people farther. If safety and creating a culture of community or, for lack of a better word, inclusion is the goal here, why not begin elsewhere? Why begin at the point of hate, beatings and death?

Hate crimes legislation is a back door approach to calming a long existing issue in the queer and trans community. Reactive approaches are so passé and it is time to hit at the heart of these issues. What we are doing now is using a system to continue to systematically oppress others legitimately.

Mathew Shepard

The New York City Gay and Lesbian Anti-Violence Project states that the major perpetrators of hate-based violence towards LGBT people are young white men, and a close second are men of African descent.  The Prison industrial complex is overflowing with people of color, men of color; Black and Brown men to be exact. It is duly noted that people of color get tougher and longer sentencing then their white counterparts. Who will feel the brunt of hate crimes legislation?

Okay, you may think, “Who cares! If they do the crime, they must do the time.” My point in this matter is not to deflect from the heinous crimes that hate-based offenders perpetrate, but that in helping to “free” one marginalized group we cannot oppress another. Just as Mathew Shepard’s mother fought to take the death penalty off the table for one of her own son’s killers, we must not contribute to preserving the prison industrial complex. The system further damages broken people, especially people of color, and greatly falters on rehabilitation. We continue to look wholly to systems that oppress us for definitive help.

Yes, the passage of the Hate Crimes Act is huge within itself, because it is the first time a piece of federal legislation has been passed to “protect” explicitly on the basis of sexual orientation and gender. The Act was signed in by our first Black President and is named after two victims of bias-based crimes: Mathew Shepard, a young, gay, white man who was kidnapped and severely beaten who later died from those injuries, and James Byrd Jr, an African American, heterosexual man who was tied to the back of a pick up truck by white supremacists and dragged to his death. The fact that this legislation is for LGBT people but names a non-queer person in it demonstrates the wonderful work done to find commonalities, to make connections to the issue of hate-based crimes on a meaningful level, and this is to be commended. James Byrd’s mother saw that connection and has been an ally for LGBT people.

I ask, “So what now?” Now that this historical piece of legislation has been passed do we rest on the notion that we have made it? Do we relax at the idea that we are safer? Or do we continue elsewhere? Do we continue to look at other approaches to ending hate-based crimes that are proactive, radical, education based and work to dismantle systems rather than inadvertently fueling them? Can we take a multiple approach?

I always think, there is no better place than at the beginning. Proactive approaches begin at the very start: childhood. Education is key and we must educate around diversity, equality, human rights and civil rights. Among other things, we need to focus attention on anti-bullying efforts, specifically in the school system. North America is no stranger to the effects of bullying in schools. We have had our share of school shootings, loss and devastation. As of 2008, there are 9 states (California, Illinois, Iowa, Maine, Maryland, Minnesota, New Jersey, Oregon, Vermont and Washington, DC) that prohibit bullying and harassment in schools based on gender identity and sexual orientation. There are 4 states that prohibit it on the basis of sexual orientation (Connecticut, Massachusetts, Washington and Wisconsin) and 25 states that prohibit bullying and harassment in schools but do not list categories.

New York City has been at the forefront of combating anti-bullying and harassment in schools with the implementation of the Respect for All Initiative and the passage of Chancellor’s Regulation A-832. We have made connections and work to change through education. In the book, Bullying at School:  What We Know and What We Can Do by Dan Olweus, it states that “60% of students who are classified as bullies in grades 6-9 were convicted of at least one crime by the age of 24. 40% of them had three or more convictions by age 24.” We must change these numbers. We must change the culture and move out of this cycle of hate. There is a progression of bigotry and hate that we have the power to tackle. Miseducation or ignorance of an individual or community turns into an irrational fear. What we don’t know scares us. This fear can turn into hate. Hate then flows into violence of many magnitudes.

Have we considered rehabilitation rather than juvenile detentions or prison for bullies and hate crime perpetrators? You can legislate all you want, but legislation and incarceration do not change attitudes. It doesn’t shift social morality. Rather it lets perpetrators know that they have to be crafty when targeting a queer or transgender person. Individuals, communities, grassroots organizations, families and the media have the power to shift attitudes. The National Coalition of Anti-Violence Projects recommends that “rather than viewing hate violence as a criminal justice problem with social implications, hate violence must be viewed as a social and public health issue with criminal justice implications.”

We must begin by creating a climate of respect that rejects violence. Political, religious and entertainment leaders must speak out against hate-based violence. Public awareness is essential. Every school in North America should have a Gay Straight Alliance, including middle schools and high schools.  We must incorporate LGBT history into the curriculum. We must be seen as human, giving names to the nameless, giving faces to the invisible. All police officers should be mandated to take continuous training on LGBT sensitivity and there must be a “No Tolerance Policy” for Police violence against LGBT communities.

All of these avenues should be tested alongside other creative ways to end hate crimes. Only then can we begin to see a glimpse of a hate-free utopia that takes into account all of our connections to the wider system in place that oppresses us all.

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